Raising Men

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Being raised by a single mother was the most significant life lesson I have ever had. At a young age, I learned how to take care of myself and how to take care of others. I also learned how to take care of a home.

Like most girls, I made many decisions about my future self when I was young. I knew the kind of husband I wanted, the kind of mom I would be, and the children I would raise. Well, good for me that my husband ended up being the exact opposite of what I dreamed of, while simultaneously being everything I ever wanted. He helped me learn what I truly wanted and who I was as a person. Together we framed our parenting to always be on the foundation of respect. And this, to us, allows our boys to form their own opinions and challenge the world.

We always said that we weren’t raising babies or kids or children. We are raising men! We are raising, God willing, future husbands and fathers. When the boys would misbehave or step out of line, I would always reference that frame of mind and ask them, “how would you feel if your son or daughter…?”. And let me tell you, they misbehaved A LOT, so as they grew older, the meaning changed and evolved their level of understanding.

And now we see the fruits. I hear respect, leader, and kind when we have parent-teacher conferences. Their teachers go out of their way to send us emails and messages, and I would rather get those messages than a report card with straight As. Because remember, I am not raising scholars or athletes. I AM RAISING MEN! This summer, that will truly be put to the test when our oldest graduates high school. He will leave our nest and show the world what kind of man he is. I fear the day as much as I embrace it. I have every confidence that he will be successful because of the traits, values, and characteristics of a man that he has displayed these 17 years.

By raising men our job is never done. Men need their mothers, fathers need their mothers, and well, daughter-in-laws- need their Mother-in-laws, right!

Want to hear more from Nichole? Check out her post Why putting our marriage first was the best decision for our boys.

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Nichole is a thirty-something wife and mother currently living in Green Bay, Wisconsin. She was however, born and raised in Texas and lived there until her early 20s. Nichole was a Combat Medic in the US Army and met a boy in her Advanced Training. They were inseparable from the day they met and she moved to the Midwest for love. Their story is a crazy one but it’s theirs and simply because of that, it’s obvs her favorite! Nichole considers herself a Jack of Many Trades, yet Master of None. She works full time in corporate marketing and has a photography business. She loves to take pretty pictures (Squid Photography) and share love through a warm meal. Her schedule is always full and it makes her a little crazy sometimes but she covets all the relationships that have arisen from the chaos. Nichole’s biggest and greatest accomplishment was receiving the title of “Mother”. She and her husband, Jeremy, were triply blessed with handsome boys! Peyton John Michael, their oldest is 14, a high school freshman, and probably smarter than her! Middle son, Piercen Rush is 10, in 4th grade and has the kindest heart! Their youngest Sir Pennington Matthews is 8 going on 18, he is loud and crazy! She claims her house is always a mess, they are always coming or going and she and her husband barely talk about anything in the “Adult” category but she absolutely LOVES her life! And can’t wait to share it with you!